Update on hating my job scenario: I got a new one!
I decided my mental health was worth a LOT more than the way I was treating it. I was getting miserable and angry and being mean to my husband for getting much better opportunities at work. Ergo, when I am not happy in my head, I am an outward Bitch.
My behaviour is not excused due to my mental state. I was the one making myself miserable by being in a job I hated, surrounded by colleagues who were unbearable. I decided that, in actual fact, I am not a tree, and if there is something that I do not like/enjoy then I can move away from it and start again.
Plug to my adorable husband! He was incredibly supportive of the idea of my leaving my old job because it was making me miserable. He said that he would support me while I looked for a new one/came to the decision I didn’t want to work at all. {Insert ugly cry face here because I was mean to him and he was so supportive! I did apologise to him for my behaviour – I’m not THAT much of a monster.}
I got lucky though, because I managed to get headhunted, interviewed and offered a role all before my probation at HorribleJobTM came to a close. It is the BEST feeling handing in your notice BEFORE your probation ends because you don’t have to stay at said job for very long, meaning I didn’t have to pretend to be interested in said job for another requisite 2-3 months. I also found out that I had more annual leave to take than I previously thought! So I got a paid week off that job earlier than I anticipated – win, win, win!
The exit interview was interesting – I gave them some pretty scathing feedback. I distinctly recall them asking me to critique them on their pay rates and I told them it was way WAY sub-par. I remember one of the members of staff there making a “joke” blog of his “adventures on where he would sleep next”. I’m not sure if I was the only one to not find it funny. The man had been sleeping on mattresses of varying degrees of questionability, in places of varying degrees of safety because that’s what he could afford! I mean, why else would you place yourself in those situations?! So I told them – Pay people more or they’ll leave in their droves, which they are.
My favourite question by far has to be the “how could we improve?” one. Ooh, how canst thou improve? Let me count the ways!! I went in to excrutiating detail on what I – amongst other still present employees – came to the realisation of:
- members in upper management were not approporiate for the role (lacked experience and was clear they were there because of proximity)
- job descriptions needed an overhaul as they were misleading which meant that people were being hired for roles that they were not appropriate for (misuse of brain and degrees)
- seriously consider the reason behind lack of support for people of diversity
- question why there was a high turnover of people across the company
- rude/condescending/patronising management
- lack of training
- lack of accountability
- lack of transparency
- lack of protocols
- lack of role boundaries
- regular instances of bullying of junior members, which forced them to leave
What I found interesting is that people from my old companies tend to look at my linkedin profile after I have left, but then don’t connect with me. By interesting I mean creepy/feel like I’m being stalked and I don’t quite understand the purpose behind it. But I let it fly every time it happens. Weird right?!
In conclusion, if you’re not happy where you are then make some active changes! It isn’t worth your sanity. I suppose it’s somewhat accurate when surveys are saying that people’s priorities have changed due the pandemic. Call me a statistic.
Self-Care >>> Anything Else
Love & Laissez-Faire x